Weighing Better Rather Than Less

Weight goals should be personalized to our body’s composition and function.

I was 25 and active. I hiked three times a week, walked regularly, paid attention to what I ate—and still, I wasn’t becoming the tiny, thigh-gap woman that was popular at the time. After a visit to my provider, I was reviewing my chart when I saw it: my BMI... and next to it, the word “obese.”

It felt remarkably unfair—especially as I sat next to a friend watching a chick flick while she ate an entire bag of Lays potato chips by herself.

For decades, the Body Mass Index (BMI) has been the default tool for assessing health. You’ve likely seen it on health forms or fitness apps—a simple calculation that divides your weight by your height squared. Based on the result, you're placed into a category: underweight, normal, overweight, or obese.

But here’s the truth: BMI is a blunt tool trying to measure a very nuanced picture.
And for many people, it’s doing more harm than good.

Raise your hand if you’ve ever had a provider tell you to “just lose weight” without offering a single action step tailored to your unique body or situation.

That’s the real problem—we’ve relied on the number on the scale as a health metric for far too long.
In fact, I’d go so far as to say: if your provider is still using BMI to evaluate your health, it may be time to find a new one.

What I wish more providers would say is:
“You need to gain more muscle”—instead of, “You need to lose weight.”
Because ironically, when you gain muscle, you also gain weight… but your body composition begins to shift in the right direction. Your metabolism improves, inflammation decreases, and your weight starts to redistribute naturally.

Just the other day, a friend said to me, “I know I need to lose weight…”
I stopped her.
“No,” I said. “You need to gain muscle. Focus on that, and the rest will start to sort itself out.”

The Problems With BMI

1. It Doesn’t Account for Body Composition
BMI doesn’t differentiate between muscle, bone, fat, or water. A muscular athlete and someone with low muscle mass and high body fat could have the exact same BMI and fall into the same "overweight" category.

2. It Ignores Fat Distribution
Research shows that where you carry fat—visceral vs. subcutaneous—matters far more than how much. A person with a "normal" BMI but high visceral (belly) fat may be at greater metabolic risk than someone with a higher BMI and strong muscle mass.

3. It Doesn’t Consider Race, Sex, or Age
BMI norms were developed from a narrow dataset that doesn’t reflect global diversity. Different populations naturally have different body structures, and women naturally carry more fat than men—especially during hormone shifts and pregnancy. Age also alters body composition and fat storage patterns.

4. It Can Lead to Misdiagnosis or Delayed Care
People in larger bodies are often dismissed or told to “just lose weight” even when other health markers are normal—or even optimal. Meanwhile, people with a “healthy” BMI may go undiagnosed for metabolic conditions like insulin resistance, PCOS, or other endangering conditions.

Health Is Multifactorial

Health is not a number on a scale. It’s a reflection of:

  • Insulin sensitivity

  • Inflammation levels

  • Hormone balance

  • Muscle mass

  • Mitochondrial health

  • Stress resilience

  • Sleep quality

  • Nutrient status

  • Metabolic flexibility

Two people can weigh the same, wear the same size pants, and have radically different health outcomes. That’s why focusing on function over form is the future of medicine and wellness.

So What Should We Be Looking At?

Instead of obsessing over BMI, consider these more individualized metrics:

  • Waist-to-hip ratio (for assessing visceral fat)

  • DEXA scans or InBody analysis (for body composition)

  • Bloodwork (fasting insulin, CRP, lipids, hormones, micronutrients)

  • Strength and mobility (can you lift, carry, move with ease?)

  • Energy levels and mood

  • Cycle regularity (for women)

  • Resting heart rate and HRV

Redefining "Overweight"

Instead of asking, “Am I overweight?”, consider asking:

  • Is my body functioning optimally?

  • Am I nourishing and moving in ways that support my goals?

  • How do I actually feel in my body?

  • Is my weight gain related to stress, trauma, hormonal shifts, or inflammation?

What Is Body Composition?

Body composition refers to the ratio of:

  • Lean mass (muscle, bones, organs, water)

  • Fat mass (essential fat + storage fat)

Unlike weight or BMI, it actually tells you what your body is made of—which is a much better indicator of health, strength, and resilience.

Why Body Composition Matters More Than Weight

  • Muscle mass protects metabolic health, prevents insulin resistance, improves strength and mobility, and contributes to longevity.

  • Too little fat (especially in women) can cause hormone dysregulation, cycle disruption, and immune suppression.

  • Too much visceral fat (around the organs) increases risk for diabetes, cardiovascular disease, and inflammatory conditions—even if weight is "normal."

Why the Scale Isn’t the Best Metric

The scale measures everything—muscle, water, inflammation, fat, food, and hormones.

But it can’t tell you:

  • If your insulin is improving

  • If your inflammation is resolving

  • If you’re building strong, healthy muscle

  • If you’re holding water from stress or hormones

  • If you’ve shifted from toxic fat to metabolically healthy fat

That’s why body composition scans (DEXA, InBody, Fit3D) give far more actionable insights than daily weigh-ins.

Fat (%)

While most devices (like InBody) measure visceral fat as a rating or area in cm², researchers estimate that visceral fat should make up no more than 10% of total body fat.

Optimal Visceral Fat % of Body Weight:

  • Women: < 3%

  • Men: < 2.5%

Types of Fat in the Human Body

Not all body fat is bad — in fact, fat plays a vital role in hormone production, cellular health, temperature regulation, and organ protection. But the type, location, and amount of fat matter significantly.

1. Visceral Fat

Location: Deep within the abdomen, surrounding internal organs (liver, pancreas, intestines)
Function: Provides cushioning and emergency energy
Risk: Excess is highly inflammatory and associated with:

  • Insulin resistance

  • Heart disease

  • Type 2 diabetes

  • Fatty liver disease

  • Hormonal dysfunction

Ideal Range:

  • < 3% of total body weight (women), < 2.5% (men)

  • Visceral fat area: < 100 cm² (DEXA/InBody)

2. Subcutaneous Fat

Location: Directly under the skin (arms, thighs, hips, abdomen)
Function: Insulation, hormone production (leptin, estrogen), energy storage
Risk: Generally less harmful than visceral fat, but still contributes to metabolic burden if excessive

Ideal Balance:
Subcutaneous fat should make up the majority of total fat stores, ideally 80–90%. When it’s well distributed (rather than centralized in the abdomen), it is far less metabolically risky.

Women - 20-33%

Men - 8-22%

3. Brown Fat (BAT - Brown Adipose Tissue)

Location: Neck, upper back, around shoulders and kidneys
Function: Generates heat by burning calories (thermogenesis)
Perks: Helps regulate body temperature and improves insulin sensitivity

Goal: Increase brown fat activity, not volume
Stimulated by:

  • Cold exposure (e.g., cold plunging)

  • Exercise

  • Adequate sleep

  • Certain peptides (e.g., MOTS-c)

4. Beige Fat

Location: White fat that can “brown” under the right conditions
Function: Acts like brown fat—burns energy instead of storing it
Perks: Flexible and responsive to environment (especially cold and exercise)

Goal: Encourage white-to-beige fat conversion
This is a target of many weight loss and longevity interventions.

5. Ectopic Fat

Location: Fat stored in non-adipose tissues, like the liver, heart, pancreas, or muscles
Function: None — it's pathologic
Risk: Highly inflammatory, impairs organ function, and increases disease risk even in “lean” individuals

Most commonly identified via:

  • Elevated liver enzymes

  • Fatty liver on imaging

  • Decreased insulin sensitivity

  • High triglycerides

Goal: As low as possible

Fat Type Breakdown in Men vs. Women

Each person stores fat differently based on sex hormones, age, and genetics. Here’s how the composition and distribution of fat typically differs between men and women:

Women naturally carry more total fat (essential fat + subcutaneous), especially around the hips, thighs, and breasts due to estrogen.

Men store more visceral and abdominal fat due to higher testosterone and lower estrogen, which puts them at earlier metabolic risk when overweight.

For Longevity & Hormonal Health

  • Women often do best with ~22–28% body fat if menstruating, and slightly higher (~25–32%) during perimenopause/menopause to support estrogen balance.

  • Men thrive with 12–18% for optimal testosterone, recovery, and cardiovascular health.

Too lean can be just as problematic as too high—especially when it’s paired with chronic stress, under-eating, or excessive cardio.

Total Body Water (TBW %)

This includes all water inside and outside cells:

Gender

  • Women:

    • Health Range- 45–60%

    • Optimal- 50–55%

  • Men:

    • Healthy Range- 50–65%

    • Optimal- 55–60%

Cellular hydration quality matters too:

  • ECW/TBW ratio < 0.39 is ideal

Higher ratios, which are more common, are signs of:

1. Systemic Inflammation

  • Inflammatory cytokines increase capillary permeability, causing fluids to leak into the extracellular space.

  • This can make you look and feel swollen—especially in the face, ankles, hands, or belly.

Seen in:
→ Autoimmunity, MCAS, mold exposure, infections, post-viral syndromes

2. Lymphatic Congestion

  • When lymph drainage is impaired, waste and fluid accumulate extracellularly.

  • This leads to a “puffy” appearance and fluid weight that doesn’t respond to diet or exercise.

Seen in:
→ Sedentary lifestyle, estrogen dominance, chronic illness, trauma, toxin buildup

3. Kidney or Liver Stress

  • These organs regulate water and sodium balance.

  • Dysfunction can lead to fluid retention—particularly lower extremity edema.

Seen in:
→ NAFLD, chronic stress, histamine overload, low bile flow

4. High Cortisol or Estrogen

  • Hormonal imbalances cause sodium retention and impaired water distribution.

  • Cortisol also breaks down muscle, shifting the water balance from intracellular to extracellular.

Seen in:
→ Chronic stress, overtraining, perimenopause, HRT without proper monitoring

5. Low Muscle Mass

  • Muscle tissue holds most of your intracellular water.

  • Low lean mass skews the water ratio—even if your TBW % is technically high, your hydration is poor.

Seen in:
→ Aging, under-eating, chronic illness, sarcopenia

High TBW % Without Muscle = Red Flag

Sometimes total body water appears “high” on a scan (e.g., >60% in women or >65% in men), but this doesn’t always mean hydration is optimal.

High TBW with a high ECW/TBW ratio usually means:

  • Intracellular water is low (dehydrated cells)

  • Extracellular water is high (inflammation, fluid retention)

  • You’re puffy but not truly hydrated

Lower ratios, are signs of:

1. Dehydration (Acute or Chronic)

The most obvious cause. Not drinking enough water, or losing too much through sweat, illness, heat, or diuretics.

Signs: Dry mouth, low energy, dizziness, constipation, elevated heart rate, low blood pressure.

2. Low Intracellular Hydration

Even if you’re drinking plenty of fluids, poor cellular absorption of water can lead to low TBW. This often reflects:

  • Low electrolyte balance (especially sodium, potassium, magnesium)

  • Inflammation or oxidative stress damaging cell membranes

  • Mitochondrial dysfunction

Common in: fatigue, insulin resistance, chronic illness, overtraining.

3. High Extracellular Water (ECW) Ratio / Water Retention

If TBW % is low but ECW/TBW ratio is high, it often suggests:

  • Inflammation

  • Lymphatic stagnation

  • Histamine or MCAS symptoms

  • High cortisol or estrogen dominance

This can create "water retention" without true hydration—you feel puffy but your cells are actually thirsty.

4. Low Lean Mass (Muscle)

Muscle tissue holds a large percentage of the body’s water (up to 75%). If someone has low muscle mass, their TBW percentage will reflect that—even if they're drinking water normally.

Red flag in: sedentary lifestyle, chronic dieting, aging, sarcopenia.

5. Undereating or Low Protein Intake

Protein helps maintain fluid balance and draw water into cells. If you're chronically under-eating or protein-deficient, your TBW and intracellular hydration may suffer.

Weight Gain Often Reflects Inflammation & Water Retention — Not Just Fat

We’ve been taught that weight gain is simply about calories in vs. calories out — but real-life biology is more nuanced.

In many cases, sudden or stubborn weight gain is less about fat accumulation and more about:

  • Systemic inflammation

  • Intracellular dehydration + extracellular fluid retention

  • Hormonal imbalance

  • Stress-related metabolic dysregulation

Inflammation & Fluid Retention: The Hidden Weight Driver

When your body is inflamed — whether due to diet, stress, mold, histamine issues, poor sleep, gut dysfunction, or trauma — it retains water and sodium to “protect” tissues and dilute toxins.

This results in:

  • Extracellular water buildup (the puffiness you feel in your face, belly, or hands)

  • Increased capillary permeability (fluids leak into tissues)

  • Sluggish lymphatic drainage

  • Altered cortisol, insulin, and aldosterone signaling

You may feel “heavy” but not fat — you’re inflamed and retaining water.

How to Disperse Inflammatory Weight (Water + Fluid)

Here’s how to shift from “swollen and stuck” to “light and lean” — without crash diets:

1. Open Drainage Pathways First

Think lymph, liver, kidneys, bowels

  • Dry brushing, rebounding, sauna, red light therapy

  • Lymphatic drainage massage or PEMF mat

  • Castor oil packs (liver and gut)

  • GI support: magnesium, fiber, bitters, motility agents

2. Shift From Inflammatory to Anti-Inflammatory Terrain

  • Remove food triggers (gluten, dairy, seed oils, histamines)

  • Add omega-3s, turmeric, resveratrol, ginger

  • Support mast cells (DAO, quercetin, luteolin)

  • Test and address stealth infections or mold if relevant

3. Hydrate Intracellularly

It’s not just about water — it’s about electrolyte balance.

  • Add minerals: magnesium, potassium, sodium, trace minerals

  • Rotate excess plain water without salts (it can dilute minerals) and mineral based hydration

  • Use coconut water, bone broth, or electrolyte powders

4. Balance Cortisol & Insulin

  • Sleep deeply (7–9 hours)

  • Eat protein-rich meals with stable blood sugar

  • Avoid overtraining — especially chronic cardio

  • Try adaptogens (ashwagandha, rhodiola), LDN, or vagus nerve stimulation

5. Move Lymphatically & Build Muscle

  • Walk 7,500–10,000+ steps/day

  • Do strength training 2-3x/week

  • Try infrared sauna or cold plunging to mobilize fluids

  • Breathwork & vagus nerve work to shift out of sympathetic dominance

Weight gain without a change in diet or activity often reflects internal dysregulation, not “failure.”

When you lower inflammation and support drainage + hormones, the weight usually sheds quickly and your body feels leaner, lighter, and more stable.

Lean Muscle Mass (%)

What Is a Healthy Lean Muscle Mass Composition?

Lean muscle mass is one of the most important—but under-discussed—markers of health, performance, and longevity. It’s the amount of skeletal muscle on your body, excluding fat, bones, and organs.

And no, you don’t have to be a bodybuilder to care about it.

Why Lean Muscle Mass Matters

Building and maintaining skeletal muscle supports:

  • Insulin sensitivity and blood sugar regulation

  • Basal metabolic rate (muscle burns 3–5x more calories than fat)

  • Hormone regulation (testosterone, growth hormone, myokines)

  • Bone density and fracture prevention

  • Cognitive health and mitochondrial function

  • Mobility, independence, and injury prevention as we age

Muscle is your metabolic engine. The more you have (within healthy range), the more resilient your body is to stress, inflammation, aging, and disease.

Healthy Lean Muscle Mass % by Gender

Women (% of total body weight)

  • Low< 24%< 33%

  • Healthy Range- 24–30%

  • Athletic- 30–35%

Men (% of total body weight)

  • Low < 30–35%40

  • Healthy Range- 33–39%

  • Athletic– 45%+

These numbers reflect skeletal muscle only—not organ tissue, water, or bone.

Real-World Example: Woman

  • Total body weight: 150 lbs

  • Healthy lean muscle mass target (30%):

    • 150 x 0.30 = 45 lbs of skeletal muscle

If she’s 150 lbs and has 45 lbs of muscle + 25% body fat, she’s metabolically healthy and hormonally balanced—even if the scale doesn’t say “120.”

Real-World Example: Man

  • Total body weight: 180 lbs

  • Healthy lean muscle mass target (40%):

    • 180 x 0.40 = 72 lbs of skeletal muscle

This man may weigh more than expected for his height—but if he’s lean, strong, and insulin sensitive, he’s in the optimal zone for long-term health.

Don't rely solely on the scale—you can gain muscle and lose fat without seeing a change in weight.

How to Build Healthy Muscle Mass

  1. Strength train 3–5x/week

    • Focus on compound lifts (squats, deadlifts, presses, rows)

    • Prioritize progressive overload (increasing resistance over time)

  2. Eat enough protein

    • Aim for 0.8–1g per lb of ideal body weight

    • Include complete proteins: meat, fish, eggs, collagen, whey, etc.

  3. Regulate inflammation + stress

    • Inflammation blunts muscle protein synthesis

    • Support recovery with sleep, electrolytes, sauna, and magnesium

  4. Cycle nutrients for hormone balance (especially for women)

    • Match carb/protein intake with menstrual cycle phases or stress levels

Healthy Muscle, Healthy You

Having healthy lean muscle mass means:

  • More energy

  • Better metabolism

  • Sharper cognition

  • Hormonal resilience

  • Increased longevity

You’re not aiming for a certain weight—you’re aiming for a composition that supports how you feel, perform, and age.

Bone Mass (%)

Bone mass makes up a small but important portion of body weight:

Healthy Range

  • Women- 3.5–4.5%

  • Men- 4.0–5.5%

Bone mass percentage declines with age if not actively maintained through strength training, hormone balance, and nutrient intake (vitamin D, K2, calcium, magnesium). Women especially need to continue resistance training as they age to maintain healthy bone density.

A more nuanced metric to look at is Skeletal Muscle Mass (SMM):

  • Men: 33–39% of total body weight as lean muscle is considered healthy and ideal.

  • Women: 24–30% lean muscle is ideal for metabolic health, strength, and hormone balance.

How to Assess Body Composition

  • DEXA scans (gold standard for accuracy)

  • InBody / Evolt360 / Fit3D scans (convenient and widely available)

  • Calipers (less precise but affordable)

  • Bioimpedance scales (good for trend tracking, within 3%-4% of a Dexa scan)

Our recommendation is to have two DEXA Scans a year to review your progress and get accurate information annually. Then add a Bioimpedance scale at home so you can track your progress throughout the year. We have seen this be an effective tool for equipping and empowering you with personal data to begin making a difference.

How to Improve Body Composition

  1. Strength train 3–5x/week
    Prioritize progressive overload, compound lifts, and resistance over cardio.

  2. Eat enough protein
    Aim for 0.8–1g per pound of ideal body weight.

  3. Optimize metabolic health
    Regulate blood sugar, sleep deeply, reduce inflammation, and manage stress.

  4. Cycle nutrition & training
    Especially for women—match intake and training intensity with hormonal fluctuations.

Why the Scale Might Go Up—And That’s a Good Thing

When you begin improving your health, **your body composition changes in ways that can confuse or frustrate you—**especially if you’re watching the scale too closely.

The truth is:

You can gain weight while getting leaner, stronger, and metabolically healthier.

Here’s why.

Muscle Is Dense, Healthy Weight

Muscle weighs more than fat by volume, but it also:

  • Takes up less space

  • Burns more calories at rest

  • Supports insulin sensitivity

  • Improves mobility and strength

  • Regulates hormones like testosterone, growth hormone, and myokines

So when you start resistance training or optimizing protein intake, your muscle mass increases, sometimes raising your total body weight—even while fat mass drops.

It’s not about weighing less. It’s about weighing better.

Measure Health by Composition, Not Just Pounds

If your:

  • Muscle mass is going up

  • Inflammation markers are going down

  • Clothes fit better

  • Energy and mood are improving

  • Strength is increasing

...you’re getting healthier—even if the scale goes up.

How to Shift the Ratio in Your Favor

  • Cold therapy → boosts brown/beige fat activation

  • Strength training → increases muscle, lowers visceral fat

  • Anti-inflammatory diet → reduces ectopic fat deposition

  • Improved sleep & circadian rhythm → improves fat distribution hormones (cortisol, leptin, insulin)

  • Peptides like MOTS-c or 5-Amino-1MQ → target brown/beige fat and metabolic efficiency

  • Stress regulation (cortisol drives central fat)

  • Support thyroid & sex hormones

We hope by now you’re realizing your goal shouldn't be a low number—it should be a functional body that’s strong, hormonally balanced, and metabolically flexible. That looks different for every person.

A scale can’t tell you if your body is thriving.

But a strong body, steady mood, regular cycle, clear mind, and energy throughout the day? That’s what optimal feels like.

Optimal doesn’t mean lowest weight. We consider hormone health, strength, energy, sleep quality and menstrual regularity more important than the number on the scale.

There’s a big difference between “overweight” and “overburdened.” And many people carry extra weight not because of willpower, but because of dysregulated systems—gut health, cortisol, thyroid, mast cells, and more.

Let’s stop using BMI as a health gospel and start seeing people as more than a number. True health is personal, holistic, and rooted in how your body functions—not just what it weighs.

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